I have believed in the dangling carrot syndrome for so long. I'm pretty sure many of you have as well. I've heard it called destination syndrome or sickness (maybe I made that part up), but it's the ever-present delay of happiness and joy in an effort to chase a promise that happens somewhere in the near future. I will be rich when I prove my worth. I will be happy when I get married. I will enjoy my life when I retire. Yes, you can enjoy all of those things when they happen, but we delay delight and wonder for the sake of later far too much, and then we are left wondering - what the f***? What is the point (maybe, it's not that extreme)? Our time is now.
We know this intellectually. We ALL know this deeply intellectually, but shedding those beliefs in the promise of the future of it being better than the now is tricky or it can feel tricky, because we hear the saying, "Be happy with what you have now," which is totally true, but then we are taught to strive and improve to fulfill our dreams of the future. When we are totally resistant free and truly happy with where we are and continually love and accept in every moment, then there is no dangling carrot. Our bliss is NOW.
Our happiness is now, and it continues as we move into the future. We clear the way for better without suffering, because we are already in love with everything in the now. We no longer have to wait for the future and expect it to save us from our now. Our now is where the abundance is. Choose to feel all of these now. That's the payoff. Everything else is easy once you grasp this. It doesn't mean you will remember in every single moment. We all have a lifetime or more of limiting beliefs and new ideas and desires that we have the opportunity to examine and process and allow, but it does mean that we all make peace with where we are at any given moment.
You are abundant and beautiful, right now.