Five Ways to Kick Monday in the Butt
Hey Monday! I'm not really liking you so much today, but it isn't really your fault. It's that first official Monday. You know the one that represents that we are all back in the routine of getting everyone dressed and out the door, getting everyone fed. Getting everyone to stop spacing out. Beginning of the school year blues. Can't we all just go back to sleep?
We all feel this way on occasion or often, but there is no reason we need to stay in this mode. I woke up this way today, because at about 3 in the morning, fear about the future started to kick in. I really hate when that happens. Damn ego waking me up. Guilt about spending money I shouldn't have spent yesterday, even though I had an amazing day outside with Olivia. Panic that I'm off track. Berating my own big decisions at 3 in the morning. Pretty irritating. I listened to two relaxing meditations and briefly scrolled through Instagram. I'd say about an hour of sleep was shaved off, which on the weekend or summer vacation is acceptable, but it doesn't go over well, when you must be up while it is still dark out.
So today, I'm having that second giant cup of coffee. I'm writing more in my journal, and I'm meditating for a few minutes every hour. Sometimes, you just have to accept that you're freaking out and act accordingly. Beating yourself up for it creates a spiral of more freak out. Beating yourself up is the equivalent of trying to erase your feelings by pretending it never happened. It's exhausting as I'm sure you know. Instead try some of these tips:
1. Acknowledge all of your feelings. Your feelings are there to remind you of what to do. If you're constantly ignoring them and / or pushing them over in the corner, those feelings will just play out in some other, usually unhealthy, way. I like self-talk and imagining all of my various inner children at different ages. I just say, "I know we are freaking out and I understand, but we are just scared, because of (fill in the blank). I love you." I imagine giving myself a big hug. I know if you're not used to doing this, it can feel silly, but I'm telling you this works. If you don't want to say it, then write as if you are talking to yourself. YOU must love yourself fully.
2. Take it easy. This does not mean don't do your work or neglect anyone (although, if you have the luxury to bask in an extended time out, do it!). It just means you don't have to accomplish everything on your to do list, right this minute. Your number one priority is making sure YOU are centered and calm. You are of little use to anything and anyone if you are working on a super stressed level.
3. Take several two to three minute breaks. I used to be a smoker. I miss smoking because it is a forced break. Granted when I was a smoker, you could still do it in the restaurant or bar, but eventually that stopped and it forced me to take a conscious walk outside for a few minutes and to breathe deeply. It's a no brainer, really. Take frequent breaks, preferably ones that force you to get up and change your scenery and breathe deeply. Does wonders.
4. Socialize (or don't). Some people need other people to talk to throughout the day to feel calm. Some don't. When I'm really stressed, I prefer to be alone listening to some favorite music. Do what makes you feel human again.
5. You choose. You can continue feeling like crap all day or you can choose to snap out of it (by using some of the techniques above or any that work for you). If you want to wallow when you have the opportunity and means to not do so, then go ahead and wallow, but remember you chose to continue with it. I know it's a fine line—don't ignore your feelings, but you don't have to bathe in the negative ones for long. Process the feelings and move on (some processing takes time though).
Maybe have that extra cup of coffee today and the pastry. I know you've got this!