Monday Motivator: Sometimes You Have to Hibernate
Hole up. Say no. Read a book. Sit for hours writing, gardening, walking, meditating. Sometimes you need an extended time out for yourself. I like to consider it an emotional and spiritual hibernation. It's a necessity all of us need, but many don’t allow it. Let's change that!
We are a society of obligation. We must return those 2,000 emails, make all of those phone calls to friends and doctors and banks and schools, see family on our only day off, go to a movie you had no desire to see because it's your turn to take the backseat. We all do this and there is nothing wrong with any of it. It feels good to give and take care of business and clear up some of the space of thinking about what you have to do—accomplishment. But, I know I've said this before, when that is ALL there is, that's when the balance of health is shifted to the less than desirable side. That's when you need more time to yourself in order to evaluate what needs to happen.
I am emerging from one of these self-imposed hibernations. I have been fortunate enough to have completed my eleven years of teaching and to have the summer to recuperate. I have chosen to stay home often in order to write and reflect and regroup. Now that I've jumped and taken the gigantic leap to live life on my terms and to work the way that is in alignment with my core beliefs, I needed a big transition—the kind that you need to reevaluate your entire life and process all of the change. It’s an honoring of sorts. I also needed the time of not listening to the ideas of others too much and a place where I was not distracted constantly by the things of everyday life. In a way, it was my own version of a retreat except, it was done in my own home, on the couch in the living room, on the couch in the family room, in my bedroom away from the kids, with headphones and meditation recordings and favorite music, occasionally at the coffeehouse in town. No matter where it was, it involved my journal—always. That's the beauty of journaling and using writing as a therapeutic and meditative tool—it can happen any and everywhere.
I am aware that it is not always possible to have extended time to mostly hideout, but there are ways to take the time for you. You just have to find it. I have children, so my hibernation was only a partial hideout. I cannot, obviously, neglect the needs of my family, but I can certainly choose to do what is best for me as well. Now that I emerge from my recuperating period, I feel stronger, more capable to handle the outside world of other people's limiting beliefs. I have the inner-stamina to not internalize other people's crap and if I feel like it's too much, I always go within through writing. It saves me over and over.
Happy Monday and here's to our collective self-restoration! You've got this!